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[..:: how to earn respect ::..]
1- Dress the part
Regardless of what you've done in the past, how much money you have in your bank account, how famous you are, or how fat you've become, a man in a well-tailored suit will always get treated better than some salame off the street.
2- Keep silent
Be discreet, be mysterious, and only say what's necessary. In fact, don't say anything at all unless you have to. Mistakes are made most often by people who open their traps without good reason. The less someone knows about you, the more likely he'll choose to stay at a respectful distance.
3- Don't lie
If you do have to open your mouth, stick to what you know. There is no faster way to lose someone's respect than by lying, especially about stupidities.
4- Never smile
Smiling is like letting your guard down. Withhold a smile, and everyone knows that you are a serious man who's not easily impressed. Nine times out of 10, the other person will try even harder to get your approval. Who respects who in this situation?
5- Confidence & humility
Remember the fine line between confidence and arrogance. Confidence has to be balanced with a good dose of humility.
6- Be polite and reciprocate respect & courtesy
Being guarded doesn't mean you can't be courteous. Good manners implies refinement, and refinement implies class; a man with class is a man that has traits worth respecting.
7- Have a good memory
Remembering someone's name and something they told you proves that you are a man who pays attention to detail, and is attentive, intelligent and savvy.
try this:
Walk into a restaurant in a Canali suit, with your head up and good posture, get a table, and order your food. When you get to the wine list, ask the waiter about a French wine you're not familiar with.
Don't say a word to the waiter until the end of the night, except for "thank you" whenever he brings you something. Don't show your dentures. At the end of the evening, repeat what the waiter told you about the wine, and give your own opinion if you are a connoisseur. Leave a 20% tip. He may only be a waiter but it's a start on the respectability trail.
remember... these things aren't done once and forgotten -- they have to be part of a new lifestyle and image you project.
posted by C.L @
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